Well over 90% of people could be classified as followers. If you are truly happy being one of them, then there is nothing wrong with that. I am certainly not advocating that everyone be a leader. This only becomes a problem when being a follower does not serve you in any way.

I would like to make it clear that we are not totally one or the other. Depending on the circumstances, we can fluctuate between the two. For example, if you are a school teacher then your position automatically puts you in the position as leader. That is what is expected of you by both the School and your students. However, if you are learning a new skill then you become the student and someone else is actually teaching you and they then become your leader, for a certain time.

This is perfectly normal. However, we want to do some self-examination to see if we are always placing ourselves in the role of follower out of laziness, lack of self-confidence or some other reason.

Ask yourself the following five questions:

* Do you feel like you are being held back because of your lack of assertiveness?
* Do you want to speak your mind at times but feel too timid to say anything?
* Do you feel angry that you are letting people make up your mind for you?
* Would you like to be able to stand your own ground when others disagree with you?
* Do you long to break out of your shell and learn to speak your own mind and express yourself well?

If you have answered “yes” to any of the above questions, then you are not happy in the role of a follower. You are certainly not locked into that role for the rest of your life and there are many things you can do to move into the role of a leader.

This is actually a choice that you can make. Go ahead and choose your own destiny, because if you don’t, then someone else will make that choice for you.

Have you ever noticed how you can pick a leader out in a group quite quickly. They seem to talk differently and have an air of self-confidence about them. They are not constantly changing their minds, depending on someone else’s opinion. They are in total control of their thoughts and are not swayed by other people. However, they have the ability to examine the facts and if something new will serve them better, then they can quickly make a decision, take the necessary action and then move on with their lives.

Leaders are not self-absorbed. They have a genuine concern for others and their aim is to somehow improve the lives of those that look up to them.

So if you are not happy with being a follower, then make that choice right now. Get out of your comfort zone and start doing things that a leader would do. There is plenty of room in the World for one more great leader…why not make it you?

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Since we entered this world as a newborn, we have been subjected to the influence of others. If we were fortunate enough to have caring and loving parents, then we got off to a good start. Those first few years were crucial in the development of our psyche. Because so many of the orphans in countries like Romania, never had the bonding and close physical contact from someone that loved them, they have a very difficult time coping with life and relationships later on in their life.

I am familiar with a number of examples of couples who have adopted children from these orphanages, only to have to return the children a few years later because they were unable to control their behaviour. These children appeared to be unable to express and accept love. It’s a heartbreaking situation for all concerned.

From the moment we are born, we need to feel close to another human being. This gets us off to a great start in life.

However, at a certain age we start to attend school and life then takes a major turn for us. We are now surrounded with other children who are all vying for the attention of the teacher and for each other. Our personality is really starting to take shape around this time and we either start to exhibit traits of being a follower or a leader. If your memory will allow you to, take a moment to look back on your childhood. Were you the child that everyone else listened to, or were you the quiet one who held back and just watched what was going on? At this age you were starting to either influence others or be influenced by them.

It’s not a bad thing to be influenced by others as long as you have chosen wisely. For example, when you reached your teen years were you influenced by your peers who wanted to smoke and drink behind their parents backs or were you influenced by the peers who were getting themselves part-time jobs and becoming successful young entrepreneurs.

During those young years you were starting to set a pattern. If you were allowing yourself to be influenced by people of poor character, then it is likely that these are the type of people that you continue to follow as you get older.

If you have been following the wrong crowd, that does not mean that you cannot turn this around. There are thousands of wonderful true life stories of people who were living on the wrong side of life, who recognized that they wanted more out of life and made that decision to take matters into their own hands, and change for the better.

So how does someone accomplish that? They have to sever their relationships with people that are a negative influence on them and seek out people they can look up to and emulate. They don’t have to know these people personally. One very successful person I know very well, went through this process. He made himself a list of five or six people that he admired. They had specific qualities that he wanted to develop in himself. He studied these people and learned everything he could about them. This way, he was able to copy what they had done and create for himself a whole new personality that was a composite of this group of people that he admired.

You can also contact these people if you so desire. You would be surprised at how accommodating they can be….they quite often welcome the opportunity to help and are willing to give free advice if they feel you are genuine and sincere.

Look at these people as your mentors. These are the folks that you want as an influence in your life. The wonderful thing about this, is that you have a choice as to who you will allow to influence your thoughts and actions. Take your time and choose wisely. This is something that we can all do and the benefits will become evident as we continue to grow, improve and head towards a successful and rewarding life.

I have been influenced by a number of people in my life…but most recently there have been a few young entrepreneurs who have taught me many wonderful lessons in how to be successful in the internet marketing field.  They are Mike Dillard, Frank Kern, Yanik Silver and Jonathan Budd.  I am truly grateful for these people who freely share their knowledge and expertise with others.

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All the best to you!

Jan

So, first of all what actually is a mentor?  According to the Webster’s dictionary it is ‘a wise and trusted adviser’.  We can all do with helpful advise now and again.  However, a mentor is a lot more than just a person we talk to occasionally who gives us some wise counsel.

A mentor is usually someone older than us, but this is not always the case.  Naturally, we assume that someone older than us is also more knowledgeable.  However, if we are starting something new and know absolutely nothing about it, then it is quite possible that someone even many years younger than us would be the most helpful.

For example, let’s say you are middle  aged and you have just started a home-based internet marketing business.  You are not internet savvy and neither are any of your friends.  So what do you do?  The answer is to search for a person who is very familiar with this information and can show you the ropes.  In this case, it would more than likely be a younger person, as they have grown up with this technology.

So how do you go about finding yourself a mentor?  There are a number of ways to do this.  First of all you could ask around for a suitable ‘match’.  You want to be specific regarding your needs.  For example, if you need someone to help you with internet marketing, then you wouldn’t want to be matched up with someone who could only help you with public speaking.

Take the time to think back on the people you have met in the past.  Perhaps they might not be able to help you personally but what about their grown or teenage children.  Don’t be afraid to ask — the worst thing that can happen is that they say no.  If they don’t agree to mentor you, don’t take this personally.  The arrangement needs to be a mutual one, for it to work.

Just don’t stop looking.  The most successful people are those who never give up!

There is nothing negative about needing a mentor.  The most brilliant people of the past have nearly always had mentors.  The great thing about a mentoring program, is that when you become proficient at what you needed to learn, you then become knowledgeable and are in turn able to help and mentor others.

I have been very fortunate to have had many mentors throughout my life.  Right now a few of my mentors are very young, bright people who really know their way around internet marketing.  They include Mike Dillard, Frank Kern, Yanik Silver and Jonathan Budd….all very knowledgeable and generous folks.

To your success!

Jan

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Probably everyone that you talk to today is familiar with the concept of positive thinking and it’s power.  However, I have found, in talking to many people, that even though they have attempted to utilize this power of thought, they have been very disappointed with the results.  For some, it seemed to be a hit and miss thing.  For others, it was a complete failure.

Why would it work for some people and not for others…and for those that did have some measure of success with it, why did it only work occasionally.  Should we then assume that the power of positive thinking is a fallacy?  So many books have been written about the subject, many ending up on the New York Best Sellers list, that surely there has to be something to it.

I have spent a number of years studying the mind and the power of thoughts.  What a great number of people fail to realize, is that our sub-conscious mind is so much more powerful than our conscious mind.  That being the case, we most often end up sabotaging ourselves because we do not understand the power of what is locked in our mind at the sub-conscious level and how it prevents us from accomplishing our goals.

I highly recommend a book by Dr. Robert Anthony, entitled “Beyond Positive Thinking.  A No-Nonsense Formula for Getting the Results You Want”.  In his book, Dr. Anthony explains the primary functions of the sub-conscious mind and how we have to go about reprogramming the information buried inside.

For example, our goal might be to buy that waterfront property that we know is coming on the market next year.  We think constantly about it and we have written affirmations that we recite daily.  We have even made ourselves an impressive ‘vision board’ with a large full color picture of us standing outside the home.  We have blown the picture up and it practically covers the entire board.  We spend time each day looking at it and imagining living in that home.

Fast forward a year and we find that nothing has moved us closer to owning that dream property.  What could be the reason for that?  Well, one of the main reasons is that on a sub-conscious level we have imprinted in our memories something that leads us to believe that we perhaps cannot afford it, or maybe that we are not worthy of owning it.  Until we can identify these negative thoughts that are buried deep in our sub-conscious, and reprogram them, we are not going to be able to move forward and achieve our goals.

So when there is no conflict between the conscious and the sub-conscious minds, our positive thinking and upbuilding affirmations will more than likely result in a successful outcome.  Where there is a conflict, it is 100% certain that the sub-conscious will win out.  It is literally thousands upon thousands of times more powerful than our conscious mind.

Positive thinking is obviously always the better way to go but to ensure that we get the results we are looking for, we have to do a detailed self-examination and understand the hidden and locked-in negative thinking that could be holding us back from the desired outcome.

I truly believe that everything is possible, but we have to do a little homework to get there…just thinking it so,  is not going to do it!!

Each and every one of us can have whatever our heart desires.  Clear those negative memories from your sub-conscious and you will be well on your way to the success that you deserve.

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Much has been written about how beneficial it is for us to reflect on the things we are grateful for.  One of the main benefits, is that it puts us in one of the highest vibrational states possible.  We are actually in a state of abundance when we are in a state of gratitude and appreciation.

According to the Law of Attraction, when we actually focus on the many things we are grateful for, we end up getting more of those very things we focus on.  During the holiday season, when we are exchanging gifts with many people, don’t you find that the more grateful people are for the gifts we give them, the more inclined we are to want to continue to give them gifts.  Certainly, our motive for gift giving is not to receive in return.  However, it is human nature to welcome and enjoy a little appreciation.

How does it make you feel when you have spent a lot of time coming up with what you consider is the perfect gift for someone, and then they barely acknowledge it?  I know from my own experience, that it doesn’t feel good…I feel let down and hurt.  I might reason with myself this way “why would I want to give another gift to that person just so that I can experience this hurt feeling again?”

So we want to reflect on the things we are grateful for but let’s not forget to actually express our gratitude to others for how they enrich our lives.  Our sincere expressions uplift them and in some cases even make their day.

Here is a little list of things that I am truly grateful for.  Perhaps it can help you in making a list of your own.  This is only the tip of the iceberg, so to speak.

My family

My faith

My community

The beauty of nature

Books

New friends

Meditation

Good food

Health

Mentors

Appreciation and gratitude is a two-way street.  We want to reflect on all the wonderful aspects of our lives right now and be truly grateful for our blessings, but we don’t want to forget to voice our appreciation and gratitude to all those around us who are caring, kind and considerate towards us.  For instance, how pleasant were you to the clerk at the grocery store this morning, or to the waitress that brought you your lunch yesterday?

Trust me when I say we can make an enormous difference in peoples lives with just a smile and a kind word.  Try it and I promise you, you will not be sorry that you did.  The joy of making others feel good will come back to you a hundred fold.

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Most people involved in internet marketing know who Mike Dillard is.  For those of you that don’t, he is the creator of  Magnetic Sponsoring, Black Belt Recruiting and MLM Traffic Formula and many other popular marketing programs.  Most people who want to succeed in this business, have at least one of Mike’s programs.

Lots of people say that they wished they were Mike Dillard.  I got to thinking why that would be so…why would someone be willing to give up their own identity to be someone else?  Well, if it’s Mike they want to be, then the first reason that comes to mind is that he is super successful, he is a very likeable person, has a huge following and oh let’s not forget that he makes a ton of money!!

But for a second let’s imagine what life would be like if we were all clones of Mike Dillard.  Sorry Mike, no disrespect to you, but what a boring world would that be!  Just think of your close friends — I am sure that they are all unique in their own way.  Heck, not even identical twins are the same in every respect.

On examining this further, I realized that it’s not Mike Dillard that we want to be.  No, we don’t want to be him….but we do want what he has, and that’s quite a different thing.  We can have what Mike has without giving up our own identity.  How do we do this?  Well, we do it by learning from people such as Mike.  Do some research on successful people and you will find out what makes them tick and what they attribute their successes to.

They can’t do it for us, but they can lead us in the right direction….and after all, isn’t that what we really need!

We have to create our own identity.  There are people in the world who are just waiting to meet US.  We are on the same wavelength as them and if they had to choose between following Mike Dillard or us, they would choose us.  That might seem surprising to some of you, but it’s absolutely true.

I’m sure you are all familiar with the Law of Attraction but some of you might never have heard of the Law of Abundance.  It states that there is enough of everything in this world to go around for everyone….enough money….enough food….enough great relationships.  Y0u just have to believe with all your being and then go ahead, do what is necessary and claim your ‘piece of the pie’, so what are you waiting for…..go grab it!!!

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Hi friends:

The holiday season is just about behind us and it’s time to start thinking about the new year just ahead of us.

Are you planning on making your usual New Year’s Resolutions?  Lot’s of people think of it as a little game but for a number of us, we are really serious about wanting to make great changes in our lives.  If we have found that in the past we had never been able to accomplish the goals we had set for ourselves, then it’s time to do a little self analysis to figure out what went wrong.

The first question we should ask ourselves is whether these were actual goals or just dreams.  There is a big difference.  When we set a goal we also set a plan in motion to enable us to reach that goal.  However, when we dream we just imagine this wonderful thing happening to us, but we don’t have a plan of action, so nothing ever happens.

When we set ourselves a goal — especially if it’s a BIG one — we should always have levels of success planned out.  If we do not do that, we are liable to start thinking that it’s so far away and then begin to think that perhaps it’s not possible, after all.  Everything in life happens one step at a time.   Make a point of celebrating our little steps of success that lead us ever closer to our ultimate goal.

Also, we want to examine our reasons for wanting to reach this particular goal.  We might find out after some soul-searching, that it was not an approriate goal for us at this time in our life and then we can replace it with one that fits better.

I wish you every success in setting your goals and then taking massive action to accomplish them.

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